My stomach hurts. I hate moments like this.
I've had to be super hard on my boy these last few days. He's picking up some realllllllly bad habits at school. Some nasty talk and just simple rudeness that we have never allowed in our 4 walls. Sassy talk, back talk and snotty behavior.
Today, after punishing through time out, spanking, and then finally removing the possession of his bike, I sat down to have a little life lesson chat with him.
In front of him, I laid out 2 randomly chosen books and said "Joey..... here are 2 books. Which one would you like to read?"
"This one," he replied.
"Joey," I said, "you just made a choice. You chose this book to read, instead of this other one. Do you understand what 'making a choice' means?"
He nodded.
"Ok, good, Joey. Now....do you know there are good choices, and bad choices? Good choices are happy choices, that make you smile and laugh and love. When you make good choices, good things happen. When you make bad choices, bad things happen. Bad choices make you sad, cry and hate. Those bad choices hurt you."
He was listening intently. I went on....
"What kind of choices do you want to make? Good or bad?"
"Good," he said.
"Good. To speak sweetly and politely and say 'good' words is making a good choice. To be sassy and mean and not respectfully is to make a bad choice. I hope you decide to make good choices and speak sweetly to Ms Jackie, to me and to daddy and your friends. If you make a bad choice and speak sassy to us, bad things will happen. Jesus wants you to make good choices, not bad. He asks us to be sweet to each other."
He got the point. But it was a difficult talk - not without a lot of heartache on the front end. But if he doesn't grasp this concept NOW, it could mean a world of hurt later.
The adventures of being a mom......
xo
Friday, October 14, 2011
Thursday, September 15, 2011
New Attitude?
Whooooooo its been a while. I can't say that its not for a lack of ideas of things to (a) write about, or (b) things going on. Its been a lack of "katie" time. Well....my attempt (hopefully not senseless) to take it back begins today.
We are trying a few things new today, as well as thinking about all the things coming up in my world.
1 - Today..... I turned in a CD of songs - 6 to be exact - to a friend of mine who has asked me to consider a guest performance for the Thacker Mountain Radio Show. It only took me 4 weeks to get music together. yeah - 4 weeks. That's really horrible on my part. But you don't understand how hard it is to pick 5 or 6 good songs written by someone else that you plan to do justice in a live performance. It made me completely nervous - and I think that nails down the reason that I never pursued an artist career in music while I lived in Nashville (that, and MANY other reasons.....more on that later if you ask.) But I would much rather go into a cool, eclectic radio show like this sporting my own tunes - but that wasn't going to happen. Sooo.... after toiling for 4 weeks about what to pick (man, there are so many great songs), I finally consulted my husband, who I was scared would shoot the rest of this opportunity down anyway (he had already stated his "woes" about it in the first place, and I was afraid that he'd put his one last nail in the coffin, assuming that I had forgotten all about it since I never brought it up again.) Once I consulted him (after some prayers!), he immersed himself totally in helping me. (wow! didn't see that one coming at all!) We picked out some good ones. And nope -not gonna tell ya. If the radio show can find a place for me, and actually formally invites me to participate, I will post the link to the broadcast. Then you'll see what we picked. :) I think you'll be pleasantly surprised.
2 - Three words: NEW. YORK. CITY. Yeahhhhhhhh man. I be going. In a month. I simply cannot wait. Fall in the City is going to be beautiful. Joe has a RedBull convention and I'm going to wander the streets. Coldplay is going to be at 30 Rock at the Today Show and I'm going to GO. And then - I'm aching for some Late Night with Jimmy Fallon tickets, so I'm going to call back every day until they offer for that taping, and we are GOING. We're going to hit up Central Park with some coffee, and our fall scarves and boots, and just breathe the air. I just love NYC. LOVE IT!!!!!! I haven't been there in about 5 years, and that trip was fantastic (very difficult, but so much fun and, well, self-gratifying. I felt very empowered and proud of myself after that trip. I'll tell you more about THAT later too, if you ask.)
3 - I have decided that I am running a Half Marathon in February. Yessssssir, I'm going to do it. My best friend from college, Nathan, and I (and possibly one or two others if we can convince them that it will be somewhat fun and painless) are going for it. Feb 25th. Bring it on. Gotta start training now. I hate running in the cold, but I think that's probably better than 115 degree sweltering heat. I'm not even sure what cause I'm running for. I have to look that up today. But it better be good. Ah, what the heck - it will be. I was supposed to run a 1/2 marathon before turning 30 but having a couple of youngsters that demanded a lot of attention, as well as a lot of other crazy stuff going on held me back from having the time and dedication required to make it happen. Not this time. Going to make it work. I'm excited.
So much other stuff going on and to look forward to. Can't believe fall is HERE. Its upon me, right now, sitting on us. I have my pumpkin spice candle burning, and I'm watching the yellow leaves fall gracefully to the ground.
The new thing I'm trying today - well, first of all, Joey dropped his midafternoon nap MONTHS ago, if not a full year ago. But now that he's in K4, he has a little bit of take home work to concentrate on. I tried hard to get him to do it yesterday around 5:30, but that little sucker was sooooo tired and distracted, he had NO interest in it, and I just kept getting mad. So I decided we are bringing back the nap - 30 minutes of pure unadulterated power napping for my little man. When he wakes up, get him a little snackie snack, a little drank, and then shove a crayon in his hand to practice tracing his shapes and writing his letters. I'm so proud of him. I think this will really help him excel. he needs that rest. I just got tired of fighting the battle at night after having a mid day nap, and not getting him to fall asleep until midnight. We may still face that now, but I'm really betting on this. After his homework, we are going to go outside and play our little hearts out. Together. Some interval training running up and down the hill (yeah - double play time with 1/2 marathon strength training) and some soccer ball dribbling. It'll be fun.
Until tomorrow....or next week (shoot, you never know.),
I just be loving me some joe.
We are trying a few things new today, as well as thinking about all the things coming up in my world.
1 - Today..... I turned in a CD of songs - 6 to be exact - to a friend of mine who has asked me to consider a guest performance for the Thacker Mountain Radio Show. It only took me 4 weeks to get music together. yeah - 4 weeks. That's really horrible on my part. But you don't understand how hard it is to pick 5 or 6 good songs written by someone else that you plan to do justice in a live performance. It made me completely nervous - and I think that nails down the reason that I never pursued an artist career in music while I lived in Nashville (that, and MANY other reasons.....more on that later if you ask.) But I would much rather go into a cool, eclectic radio show like this sporting my own tunes - but that wasn't going to happen. Sooo.... after toiling for 4 weeks about what to pick (man, there are so many great songs), I finally consulted my husband, who I was scared would shoot the rest of this opportunity down anyway (he had already stated his "woes" about it in the first place, and I was afraid that he'd put his one last nail in the coffin, assuming that I had forgotten all about it since I never brought it up again.) Once I consulted him (after some prayers!), he immersed himself totally in helping me. (wow! didn't see that one coming at all!) We picked out some good ones. And nope -not gonna tell ya. If the radio show can find a place for me, and actually formally invites me to participate, I will post the link to the broadcast. Then you'll see what we picked. :) I think you'll be pleasantly surprised.
2 - Three words: NEW. YORK. CITY. Yeahhhhhhhh man. I be going. In a month. I simply cannot wait. Fall in the City is going to be beautiful. Joe has a RedBull convention and I'm going to wander the streets. Coldplay is going to be at 30 Rock at the Today Show and I'm going to GO. And then - I'm aching for some Late Night with Jimmy Fallon tickets, so I'm going to call back every day until they offer for that taping, and we are GOING. We're going to hit up Central Park with some coffee, and our fall scarves and boots, and just breathe the air. I just love NYC. LOVE IT!!!!!! I haven't been there in about 5 years, and that trip was fantastic (very difficult, but so much fun and, well, self-gratifying. I felt very empowered and proud of myself after that trip. I'll tell you more about THAT later too, if you ask.)
3 - I have decided that I am running a Half Marathon in February. Yessssssir, I'm going to do it. My best friend from college, Nathan, and I (and possibly one or two others if we can convince them that it will be somewhat fun and painless) are going for it. Feb 25th. Bring it on. Gotta start training now. I hate running in the cold, but I think that's probably better than 115 degree sweltering heat. I'm not even sure what cause I'm running for. I have to look that up today. But it better be good. Ah, what the heck - it will be. I was supposed to run a 1/2 marathon before turning 30 but having a couple of youngsters that demanded a lot of attention, as well as a lot of other crazy stuff going on held me back from having the time and dedication required to make it happen. Not this time. Going to make it work. I'm excited.
So much other stuff going on and to look forward to. Can't believe fall is HERE. Its upon me, right now, sitting on us. I have my pumpkin spice candle burning, and I'm watching the yellow leaves fall gracefully to the ground.
The new thing I'm trying today - well, first of all, Joey dropped his midafternoon nap MONTHS ago, if not a full year ago. But now that he's in K4, he has a little bit of take home work to concentrate on. I tried hard to get him to do it yesterday around 5:30, but that little sucker was sooooo tired and distracted, he had NO interest in it, and I just kept getting mad. So I decided we are bringing back the nap - 30 minutes of pure unadulterated power napping for my little man. When he wakes up, get him a little snackie snack, a little drank, and then shove a crayon in his hand to practice tracing his shapes and writing his letters. I'm so proud of him. I think this will really help him excel. he needs that rest. I just got tired of fighting the battle at night after having a mid day nap, and not getting him to fall asleep until midnight. We may still face that now, but I'm really betting on this. After his homework, we are going to go outside and play our little hearts out. Together. Some interval training running up and down the hill (yeah - double play time with 1/2 marathon strength training) and some soccer ball dribbling. It'll be fun.
Until tomorrow....or next week (shoot, you never know.),
I just be loving me some joe.
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
Writing.
Feeling the pull to start writing again...... I hope the Lord will grant me the time to do so. Got a lot that I need to share. Stay tuned.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
So glad....
... That these two boogers like hugs and kisses, because I just can't get enough.
I love my family so much.
I love my family so much.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
These Days
In between the snowflakes and the 60 degree days, I'm just chasing around my beautiful kiddos. They steal my heart every day.... they are such miracle blessings. But these last couple of snows in Mississippi have caused me to be restless. I've tried hard to tame it, but its hard....very hard.
I love my life beyond all imagination. But when my restlessness comes upon me, ambivalence sets in. Its a hard thing for a perfectly happy mom to admit, but I'd be willing to be money that most, if not all moms, have this every now and again.
Sometimes I wish my world was a little more peaceful and less cluttered. I'd like maybe one day a week where my house did not vomit fisher price, and I had been given the nod from my husband to just start chunking all the clutter junk that we don't need. Every now and then, a hour or two to just sit down with no obligations to have a hot cup of tea and read a book - for pleasure. Just a story. To get lost. And to be inspired. To warp to a different world. And then maybe an afternoon to do a DIY project. Or paint. Or just some time to LEARN to paint. I also want to redecorate my office. And maybe do some filing, and make room on my desk for, oh, I don't know....some flowers.
I think I wish I could Mary Poppins my way into a picture that was designed by the editors of Pottery Barn, Real Simple, and Ready Made magazines.
The way I feel usually comes on late at night when I'm tired, or have had an especially hard day emotionally (like today).....and when I wake up in the morning, the ambivalent feelings kind of tuck themselves away for a few hours. And I can just move along......
Until next time...... :) I'll just keep dreaming and finding my little pieces of peace within the day, whether it be in a single cup of chai, or cleaned up toy room at the end of the day.
I love my life beyond all imagination. But when my restlessness comes upon me, ambivalence sets in. Its a hard thing for a perfectly happy mom to admit, but I'd be willing to be money that most, if not all moms, have this every now and again.
Sometimes I wish my world was a little more peaceful and less cluttered. I'd like maybe one day a week where my house did not vomit fisher price, and I had been given the nod from my husband to just start chunking all the clutter junk that we don't need. Every now and then, a hour or two to just sit down with no obligations to have a hot cup of tea and read a book - for pleasure. Just a story. To get lost. And to be inspired. To warp to a different world. And then maybe an afternoon to do a DIY project. Or paint. Or just some time to LEARN to paint. I also want to redecorate my office. And maybe do some filing, and make room on my desk for, oh, I don't know....some flowers.
I think I wish I could Mary Poppins my way into a picture that was designed by the editors of Pottery Barn, Real Simple, and Ready Made magazines.
The way I feel usually comes on late at night when I'm tired, or have had an especially hard day emotionally (like today).....and when I wake up in the morning, the ambivalent feelings kind of tuck themselves away for a few hours. And I can just move along......
Until next time...... :) I'll just keep dreaming and finding my little pieces of peace within the day, whether it be in a single cup of chai, or cleaned up toy room at the end of the day.
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